Various fantasy , excitement , complaints , complaints are seen in many people about marriage. Especially among boys (I didn't use the word male though!). Girls are naturally more communicative than boys. So it is important for boys to learn this skill. Let's see a few things whether you are of marriageable age:
1. Men - Does it mean you know what Shariamat ?
2. Do you know the duties and responsibilities of the family ? How many of these are you keeping in your throat ? For how many years ? Do you know that you have to do it for the rest of your life ?
3. What do you know about screen , satar ?
4. Mahram - What does Mahram mean ? If there is no environment in your home, how to create it ?
5. Do you invite your family and relatives to the religion ?
6. What exactly do you know about child rearing ? It is important to know this well before your marriage , it will also help you to find suitable mothers for your future children .
7. How controlled is your anger ?
8. What to do or do in difficult times is helpful in attaining the pleasure of Allah ?
9. What do you think about Al-Wala Wal-Bara ? Does it apply in real life ?
10. Marriage , Divorce , Family , Menstruation , Nifas , Iddat , Nazar Hifazat - Do you know these issues and related issues ?
11. How to solve family problems - how much do you know about it ?
12. How much do you inquire about your family ?
13. Did you know that getting married means you are joining at least 3 families and have responsibilities in all of them ?
14. How do you maintain relationships - efficient or inefficient ?
15. Are you physically , mentally , financially fit ?
16. Will you pay the dowry in cash ? It should be in cash as per your ability. Otherwise there will be problems. It is better not to go towards the one who will not agree . (Suppose you die within 10 minutes of the wedding , then your dowry will have to be collected from your heirs , is it right to blame them like this ? Even if the bride forgives , it is not from a happy heart!)
17. How much do you know about Kufu ? Do you know that if it is not, your family life will be embers ?
18. Is your place in your family clear ? Is your word worth it ?
19. Can you solve problems with a cool head ?
20. A wife will hurt herself with mean words. Do you know it ? Do they have the strength to endure ? ( If you are not mentally prepared, it is better not to get married , because you will get hurt and do the opposite. Biological needs are very short-lived)
21. Can you play a lot of that level ? Because , it will help to keep your family happy and maintain your position in the family .
22. Are you doing what you want to do to please Allah in the way Allah and Rasool (pbuh) have told you ?
23. Have you acquired basic knowledge ? If not, start earlier .
24. What is known about Hurmate Mushahara ?
25. Don't let others take you for granted. Where you are considered " Taken for granted" - can you take effective action ? It is useful in work and family , social - everywhere .
Now tell me how many of your answers are positive ? Now you decide. What are you afraid of ? The intention is not to scare you , but to familiarize you with the facts so that you can make the right decision. There is a saying in the army – “hard training , easy fighting”. So the more possible situations you prepare the better. What is called worst case scenario preparation. My intention is to convey a message to you. You kept a few things in mind and what not .
Sazzad Hossain
August 15 , 2021
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