Things a girl needs to take care of in marriage
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Marriage is a very important ritual in life , it cannot be called a mere event ; A turning point in life will not be said too much. Although girls become fit for motherhood (ie marriage) when they reach puberty (according to Shariah) , considering the social context and current situation, there are some other things that need to be taken into consideration. For example:
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1. According to Shariah, what are the characteristics of what is called "woman" or "purity woman" or "purity wife", do you know ? (Definition of righteous wife)
2. There are many distinct roles in a girl's or woman's life – daughter, wife , mother , mother -in-law , girlfriend – are you familiar with them ?
3. Sansara is not a fictional story – a real institution. Its foundation and sustaining are renunciation , strategy , adaptation , compliance , faith , trust , responsibility , illusion , compassion , pride , patience , devotion. What do you think about these ? ( applicable to both husband and wife)
4. How much do you know about the mentality of men ?
5. How good are you at communicating ? (Communication skills)
6. A man doesn't think the way you think . There is a stark difference between the two people - do you know about it ? ( Beauty and attraction exist because there are contrasts)
7. What are the responsibilities of a wife in the world - do you know ?
8. Are you good at family work ? ( If you can't do as much as you say , then learn it , it's your duty)
9. Do you melt at peer pressure ? (Peer pressure – means your brother has it , why don't you , you need it)
10. Are you content with little ? ( Less means the minimum required , not in your opinion , universally)
11. "The girl who is more attracted to her father's house after marriage , there is more turmoil in her family and the possibility of divorce is more" - do you know this ?
12. Do you have the courage and ability to solve your own problems ?
13. Can you maintain your privacy ?
14. Have you acquired knowledge ?
15. Marriage , divorce , pregnancy , child rearing , relationship protection - do you know the details ?
16. Does your word have any value in your family (father's house) ?
17. Do you compromise with injustice ?
18. What kind of children do you want - have you decided ? ( Then it becomes easier to find the father of such a child)
19. Do you know about Hurmat Mushaharat ?
20. What will the husband be like - are you living in an illusion about it ? ( Eg: Prince will be , Oman will be , that will be like that , he will be like that – these)
21. Do you compare your own life and everything you have with others ? Are you unhappy as a result ?
22. Do you think and act , or what the mind wants - that's it ?
23. Can you control your feelings or emotions ?
24. Are you in control of your anger or is your anger in control of you ?
25. How do you think of multiple marriages ? ( If you don't like it, it will cause your faith to go away)
26. Do you take the advice of others (mother , sister , girlfriends) in everything , or do you check with patience ?
27. Do you harbor unrealistic expectations that husbands will bring you this and that every day , take you for a ride , act like a novel , pretend like unemployed boys ?
28. Do you think that your husband will understand you ? ( 95 % of men don't understand if you don't make it clear , because only Allah knows what's on your mind , not your husband)
29. Interested in marriage with full cash dowry according to what the husband can afford ? ( Because , many families claim fictitious and unreal mohar)
30. Can you take care of yourself ? ( This is always very important)
31. Do you know and obey the rules of the screen ?
32. Do you invite the rest of your family members to practice religion ?
33. Which costs are useful , and which are not - how do you understand these ?
34. How is your addiction to the phone ?
35. Are all your actions according to the words of Allah and His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) ?
36. Your husband will have dinner with you every day , listen to you , be very romantic , understand - what do you think ? ( If you do, throw it out of your head , 95% of men don't know or understand any of these things ; if you want to, they have to be taught in a tactful way)
37. I will make my son-in-law straight with tights , I will go shopping every week - are these imaginary thoughts ? ( Get it out of your head if you have)
38. The husband will have a lot of money , will be loyal to you , will give you a lot of time - do you want to have all these together ? ( Be aware that such men are one in a few trillion)
39. Do you see only money and family in the pot ? Character , masculinity , piety , morals , behavior , disposition - have you taken these into consideration ?
40. Are you keeping yourself holy ? For example: Characteristically , physically , emotionally , mentally , imaginatively , relationally , behaviorally – etc.
41. How much do you know and understand about Badanjar ? Masnoon practices ?
42. How much time do you spend in acquiring , practicing and distributing knowledge ?
43. Allah is happy or unhappy - do you have such thoughts in your thoughts , words and actions ?
44. How much do you know about Al Walla , Wall Bara ?
45. Your girlfriend or someone else's life , husband , children is theirs – not yours ; What does it mean ? ( means you want what others have , if you don't get it, you make trouble , do you do that ? Although it is very wrong to do that)
46. More accustomed to using chemicals ?
47. Can you control the nature of hurting with words ?
48. Seventeen - do you know everything ?
49. Do you have a tendency to sneeze ?
50. How much do you know about Kufu ?
51. Do you know about Ruqayyah ?
52. Have time to minimize these activities ? - Daily recitation of the Quran , with meaning and commentary ; Hadith learning , interpretation and its teaching ?
53. Usually , when a person is told a problem, he gives advice or a solution to what he would have done if he had been in that situation (pay attention , what he would have done or done - not given or not done) - do you know that ?
54. Are you going to marry a man or a big boy who sits on the words of his mother , sister , has no personality of his own ?
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The checklist may have gotten a little long , but I think we need respect for women. We never want them to be lacking in anything, that is, as men, as guardians , protectors and responsibilities of women. The above words apply only to those who are Muslim , who practice or want to practice Islam. Can't speak for the rest. And the above words are just some tips , no one is obliged to accept it. It is not intended to force anyone. If it benefits someone, give it as it is. Nothing more than that .
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Sazzad Hossain
December 24 , 2022
Translated using google
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